you are each learning "how to"
With the early days being all about rest and feedings, it provides you a perfect, built-in opportunity for you and your baby to get to know each other well and learn how to do all that your new roles require of you. It’s lucky that you can’t spoil a very new baby, so you're free to hold your baby close whenever you or your baby wants — and you'll get plenty of second chances, too, for those little mishaps or first tries along the way. You’ll soon learn how to take care of your own needs at the same time, too; resting when baby rests, having quick & healthy snacks close at hand, making sure you are in a comfortable and relaxing spot when feeding your little one. It’s a time of being patient with each other; building a healthy, trusting relationship and a solid foundation on which to build and go forward with.
How To by Liana Finck "How to Parent / How to Baby" (The New Yorker magazine)
reflections of a postpartum doula